I think if I could change anything…it would be… to be more aware of how other people are affected by what I say. I can be fairly no nonsense, black or white. I have hurt people’s feelings by not stopping to consider how what I just said, might affect them.
I have picked myself up by the bootstraps…as they say, quite a few times and I don’t have a lot of patience for someone who wants to go over their “poor me” story over and over.
I will listen but I think it would be nice if I could come up with a sensitive or compassionate response, like…that must have really hurt…or gosh, that must have been traumatic! I don’t know…just something that isn’t so insensitive as my usual…well, sounds like you got through it, now…what are you gonna do next?
I think I like to get over stuff a little faster than most folks. However, it comes off as insensitive, I have been told. Okay, then…
What about my tone of voice?
I hear that it can really trigger the defenses on a lot of people too. So maybe I need to be more aware of my tone of voice? Let’s see…my tone of voice AND what I say.
Well, maybe I should quit rolling my eyes and smirking or chuckling under my breath, as well. My gosh…are you kidding? What’s next? Should I talk to you in baby talk and pat you on the head, tuck you in your blanky and hand you your stuffed sleepy toy?
Or maybe I could just be more aware…