Day 29: Something I want to Change About Myself and Why…

I think if I could change anything…it would be… to be more aware of how other people are affected by what I say. I can be fairly no nonsense, black or white. I have hurt people’s feelings by not stopping to consider how what I just said, might affect them.

Mom, my "victim"

I have picked myself up by the bootstraps…as they say, quite a few times and I don’t have a lot of patience for someone who wants to go over their “poor me” story over and over.

I will listen but I think it would be nice if I could come up with a sensitive or compassionate response, like…that must have really hurt…or gosh, that must have been traumatic! I don’t know…just something that isn’t so insensitive as my usual…well, sounds like you got through it, now…what are you gonna do next?

I think I like to get over stuff a little faster than most folks. However, it comes off as insensitive, I have been told. Okay, then…

What about my tone of voice?

I hear that it can really trigger the defenses on a lot of people too. So maybe I need to be more aware of my tone of voice?  Let’s see…my tone of voice AND what I say.

Go to Happy, Texas, why don't ya?

Well, maybe I should quit rolling my eyes and smirking or chuckling under my breath, as well. My gosh…are you kidding? What’s next? Should I talk to you in baby talk and pat you on the head, tuck you in your blanky and hand you your stuffed sleepy toy?

Or maybe I could just be more aware…

...but she still loves me.

3 thoughts on “Day 29: Something I want to Change About Myself and Why…

  1. what’s that saying? We can’t change what we don’t acknowledge. You’re aware .. and that’s the first step.

    But, for what it’s worth, we’re a lot alike. I can be compassionate but I can also be exasperated .. I’m a “get in, get it done, get out” kinda girl .. so, like you, I don’t give much time or attention to the “poor me’s” of the world….. Puhleeze. However, sometimes, I have to … and it’s a trial for me, too.

    Great post!


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